Self Betterment

Self Betterment

1. The big key to improvement in anything can be summed up in three words – practice, practice, practice.” (St. John, 2012). Did you ever have to re-do something to strive for that greatness? What did you do to improve upon your other efforts?

In several cases, I have had to re-do things to attain success, and I had to improve in various areas. First of all, I had to find my passion. “Do it for love, not for money” (St. John, 2012). Passion leads to hard work, determination, happiness, and creativity. In that, it leads to motivation, which enables the wherewithal to work even after multiple failures consistently. However, passion is closely associated with a person’s desire and capability to go beyond the comfort zone to achieve excellent outcomes. All in all, enthusiasm indicates the future of a person. In that, if an individual is successful in education or other relevant sectors, the lack of passion can still lead to failure.

That aside, to practice efficiently, I had to improve my discipline. Now discipline outlines the basic plan and stability in a person’s life. Secondly, it teaches responsibility and respectful associations. The absence of discipline can lead to mistakes and poor decisions at the expense of other participants. As a result, the capability of having self-constraint enables consistency and control in terms of actions and behaviors (St. John 2012). In other words, discipline is like a form of freedom; that is, freedom from being fearful and being weak and freedom from putting other people’s expectations in front.

Lastly, since I had to re-do something to strive for that greatness, I had to foster patience. Patience means that one can take their time irrespective of how long it takes. Tolerance ensures consistent focus while waiting to attain the outcome. Also, patience fosters discipline leads to hard work, determination, happiness, and creativity. In that, it leads to motivation, which enables the wherewithal to work even after multiple failures consistently. Concerning patience as an essential factor of a goal-oriented individual, it is vital since it helps monitor the overall progress, build on positivity, and avoids overwhelming reactions.

2. Are you more of a goal-directed person or a relationship-oriented person? Which do you want to be, and why?

Usually, I am a relationship-oriented person; however, I want to be a goal-directed person because it gives an individual the urgent need to achieve various goals objectives. What is more, it ensures hard work and consistency to meet deadlines and targets.  I want to be goal-driven because it serves two vital components; that is motivation and preparation. Regarding preparation, it fosters awareness in terms of future tasks. As of which, the participant has to utilize time management mechanisms to ensure goals are achieved and time is saved effectively. What is more, it fosters organization and planning on tasks, thereby providing clear and accurate sequences that flow efficiently without interruption. I want to be a goal-oriented person because it ensures the breakdown of overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, thus fostering efficiency.

Concerning motivation as an essential factor of a goal-oriented individual (St. John, 2012), it is vital since it helps monitor the overall progress, builds on positivity, and avoids overwhelming reactions; in any case, there is a challenge. Motivation ensures that the participant is in control while critically remaining focused on the desired outcome. I want to be a goal-directed person because it ensures that while trying to achieve the set goal, an individual can never lose sight of the final destination. At the same time, it eliminates unrealistic anticipation before outcomes are achievable. A goal-oriented person never gives up; however, if there is a case of failure, they work on strategic alternatives until the best solution is attainable. What is more, goal-orientation eliminates procrastination by fostering action and consistent accomplishments right from the beginning to the end of the set objective. In most cases, habits are the core determinants of success; therefore, one of the most vital habits one can form is becoming a goal-driven person.

3. How are you a positive role model for children ages (10 to 14 years of age)? To be more specific, what are you proud of about yourself that has helped to make you the person you are today, and why would children ages 10 to 14 years of age look up to you for this?  Describe this with three points.

I know I am a positive role model for kids of ages (10 to 14 years of age).  As a result, there are three things that I am proud of, and that has made me who I am today. First of all, it is healthy living; in most cases, I ensure that I eat a balanced diet, then I carry out exercise and workouts. And this is the primary factor that makes me whole. To the kids, it sets an excellent example by practically showing them what they can do to be fit and healthy. What is more, exercise eliminates various diseases like child obesity, thereby fostering health.

Another factor that I am proud of is self-control. My parents usually insisted on restraint when I was young; therefore, it has facilitated my growth to this stage. Releasing emotional distress is appropriate for the overall well being. However, a combination with self-control is critical since it has helped me to know when and how to stop, start, or act. For the kids, since they are young and in their learning stage, they tend to pick behaviors from the people in their environment. Therefore, self-control will consistently provide self-discipline and the best image for kids.

Lastly, I am proud that I am usually volunteering to serve the community. Since I have made it a consistent habit to go out with my family into my community and offer various services, my relationship with my friends, neighbors, and the society at large has been very positive. One of the most complicated things in life is to gain emotional separateness from that robust early family environment (Richarson, 2012). Therefore, if the kids see the image of helping others, they grow up with a helpful mentality. As a result, they become social, happy, and positive within their families and society at large. In summary, voluntary services lead to unity within families; it fosters teamwork and coordination and, most importantly, generosity.

4. What would you consider to be the three most essential qualities for a successful relationship (romantic relationship or friendship)? Explain why you feel they are so important.

The first essential quality of a successful relationship is compassion. In that, both partners must be able to view situations and make decisions from a mutual perspective. Compassion facilitates respect, appreciation, and care. As a result, it leads to a secure connection, adequate partnership, and satisfactory intimacy. Kindness is fundamental to people who are vulnerable since they mostly depend on others for social and emotional support (Berne, 2016). Therefore, a successful relationship ensures that there is a moral imperative that enables equal, fair, and loving treatment. All in all, compassion is the aspiration to live; happily, it involves carrying sacrificing activities and resources, but most importantly, time.

The second quality of a successful relationship is compromised. Many people assume that the lack of challenges, the ability to predict them, and avoid them is the key to happiness; well, this is not. As a result, comprise provides the knowledge and discipline to solve problems whenever they arise. Besides, in a normal human being setting and people must disagree, grievances must arise; thus, in a successful relationship, the partners do not hide from problems, but they face them to solve, and know-how prevent future challenges. In summary, challenges will arise consistently; however, believing that there is an appropriate solution keeps the relationship healthy and long-lasting.

The last quality of a successful relationship is trust. Trust is the most crucial factor in any form of contact. It can take so much time to build on trust; however, it could take a couple of seconds to destroy it. Therefore, faith is crucial since it ensures a friend or a spouse is trustworthy enough to keep their spouse’s secrets, fears, or hurting memories from past life experiences. When spouses reveal their personal information, they believe that their partners are trustworthy not to use it against them. Trust is essential for any form of relationship.

5. Write a goal you could make for yourself today (a new purpose), and what steps would you take to make sure that you follow through with it? What makes this goal important in your life?

The goal I can make for myself today is contribution beyond me. In that, pretty egoistically and in most cases, I prefer to make myself happy and more comfortable at the expense of my friends’ happiness. To be honest, usually, I try to help as much as I can, but I do not think my efforts are substantial. As a result, I want to contribute beyond my comfort and pleasures. Consequently, I will the following steps to achieve this goal; first, I will ensure my goal is specific, and here I will outline who to involve, what accomplish, where to do it, and the particular periods. Secondly, my objective must be measurable; I will create criteria that indicate my progress to certify that I am productive concerning my goals. Third, have goals have to be achievable; in that, I will find the most appropriate equipment to achieve, such as communication gadgets and contact information to reach out extensively. Also, the goal must be relevant to my objectives, meaning that the target must be within my reach; then, I will evaluate my resources to ensure they are adequate. Lastly, I will create time and personal commitment towards ensuring that contribution beyond the scope as many friends as possible. The last strategy is time-based planning, and it means I will set a precise date and deadlines on which I want to reach out beyond my comfort. Now, this goal is so important because I want to make more time for the people that I love. I want to have conversations, interact with as many friends as possible. What is more, I want to solve any previous dispute and ensure my correlation with my friends is healthy and active. Through contributing beyond myself, I will foster peaceful and happy relationships and serve a larger group of people beyond my interest.

References

Berne, E. (2016). Transactional analysis in psychotherapy: A systematic individual and social psychotherapy. Pickle Publishing

Richardson, R. W. (2012). Family ties that bind: A self-help guide to change through family of origin therapy. Self-Counsel Press.

St. John, R. (2012). Eight secrets of success. Retrieved from