Avoidance of Conflict as a Style

Avoidance of Conflict as a Style

Response to First Post by Christina

Hello Christina? Thank you for your post because it is discussing the concept of avoidance and the consequences associated with it. I truly agree with you when you say that people get into an argument over small things, repercussions notwithstanding. This has been realized to be a big challenge, especially among partners, and has been a significant cause of divorce. You mentioned in your post that avoidance is the best tool, especially when couples conflict because it prevents cases of violence. However, you have indicated that avoiding conflict does not augur well for all couples because some take it as a form of ignorance. I indeed agree with you on this.

You mentioned that feelings arise during conflicts, and this is very true. Does it mean that one should argue back during disputes? You said that when your partner uses avoidance, you feel that it is a way of avoiding solving the problem. Your case has differed with mine because when we enter into an argument with my partner, I use avoidance, and this makes him keep quiet too. This brings our argument to an end. Handling conflict is an essential aspect of every relationship. My take is that partners shouldn’t solve a conflict through argument, but should wait until when they are in their moods. If this is done, the problem will be answered. I wish you well.

Second Post by Leigha

Hey Leigha? Your discussion for this week has changed my take about conflict and avoidance. As you began your post, you mentioned balance and moderation, and I indeed agree with you on this, and I wish all partners could adopt it. Unless I’m wrong, you meant that handling conflict with moderation or avoiding it is the best way to handle an argument. Avoidance is a tool employed by many partners, but it is still attached to many consequences. You were right when you said that the person using restraint in a conflict has a higher sensitivity and can make the other partner to blow up. You compared it with a cornered animal, and this smile fits here so well.

Your discussion post is exciting, and I’m surprised by how you connect your past and your present, as far as avoidance is concerned. You said that if restraint is used on, you are not bothered like the way you used to when you were young. If you know that engaging in an argument will inflame a situation, you stop it and wait for the right time. This is precisely what I do, and I can confess that it has helped me a lot. Avoidance is not a solution, but planning the strategy helps more. I wish you success in the remaining classes.