Benefits of Heartbreak

Benefits of Heartbreak

            Everyone has felt broken in two, empty and hollow, like if everything that ever mattered did not exist anymore because a loved one has abandoned them. Everyone can relate because it is natural for heartbreak to traumatize a person from trying to venture out again, and transforms into a form of pain and loneliness. Pain and loneliness can lead a person down a path of isolation or worse, suicide. One of that pain comes from a feeling that we all felt once in our life, love (Field, 217). We were taught that not all things in the world are free and sacrifice is required to achieve that state of love. That’s why many sacrifice a part of themselves when it comes to love to obtain true happiness. Therefore, everyone should embrace the feeling of the heartbreak because it is beneficial to help understanding the fundamentals of life, mature, guide, strengthen a person psychologically, and support a person find his or her true value (Field, 217).

A broken heart teaches a fundamental lesson of life that helps a person to recognize the healthy potential side of a devastating heartbreak and assist them to expand their undeveloped heart to a new possibility (Persaud, 123). Life’s a rollercoaster that goes up and down and can sometimes get stuck along the way; in a relationship people are bound to make mistakes that can cause an individual heart to be shattered into pieces, that feeling leaves a person fragility, stuck in an infinite loop of making the same mistake (Field, 217), but the potential for recovering and healing is even stronger. The stage of recovering might make a person heart stable for quite some time, and this is when they can start experience happiness, hope, and connection once again. The stage of recovering cannot truly begin without first accepting the pain and loss (Field, 217). It is never easy when it comes to losing someone precious, but it can get easier by accepting the feeling that is hiding behind the mask people uses when they are not showing their emotional side, especially men  (Persaud, 123). A person needs to acknowledge their feeling and show it rather than hiding because once that feeling is on the surface it can be released and the process of accepting start. This process can be hard for some people because accepting a certain event can be devastating and traumatizing. It’s a timely process that needs a dedicated amount of time and sheer determination to accept the facts of what happened (Persaud, 123). Life can still be amazing even if a heartbreak occur because there are no such things as a perfect life no one can be truly perfect even if they try. Happiness and sadness co-exist with each other because it needs to stay a balance. Overall, a broken heart teaches fundamental lessons of life that is how to deal with pain, keeping yourself strong, and learning to move on (Persaud, 123).

A person’s heart can be broken physically, mentally, and emotionally. A human heart is extremely delicate in youth (Grollman, 134). Any small miss treatment causes it to boil in tears like a baby not getting the toy they wanted. The only way to strengthen it is through the pain. A big step in growing up with a mentally strong heart is a heartbreak. An individual can become emotionally stronger from an unsuccessful relationship (Grollman, 134). Learning the lessons from the previous relationship can fortify and build a foundation for making the next relationship successful while at the same time maintaining the identity of one self. In the end, these will make a person become more emotionally stable and improve their self-esteem by finding their true value (Persaud, 123). Also the most obvious lesson of them all, it is a lesson of how to maintain and healthy and loving relationship. The reason it was heartbreak in the first place was that there was something not working. Learning to see the flaws and fixing the problems in important in maintaining a strong relationship with another person (Dennis, 168), a person defines those flaws and mistakes and analysis them, so the next relationship does not fall in the same horrible breakup like the last one. She or he learns from your past heartbreak so there can be a chance to make the next one fulfilling. In my trust. this will improve the chances that heartbreak does not occur again. It’s okay to fail and feel pain. It means there was something too important that brought one happiness. But love can hurt, so it’s important to learn how to heal (Moore, 551).

Heartbreak is a stage for a person to develop and grow up from their innocent self. When we are seeing someone, tend to dream about a future where marriage with that individual is probably going to happen, and life is so impeccable with them (Persaud, 123). However, this leads us to put a considerable measure in that specific individual and set everything else aside so we can make them upbeat. Along these lines of reasoning is noticeable in young people since the majority of them are encountering love out of the blue. The lion’s share of individuals finding their first love is probably going to happen when they are in their immature years. Young people are the result of developing since they are in a phase of their life where a shock has a high possibility of happening. The young person tends to move around like how their folks move to an alternate nation or heading off to college and turning into a grown-up, this can influence the relationship and potentially finishing it as an individual is a power to proceed onward. This catastrophe is the initial step to help develop a person to end up more freedom and guide them to whatever is straightaway (Moore, 551).

After heartbreak, it’s tough to find sense and direction. The brain is in a lot of distress that it makes people want to curl up in a corner and watch the sun go up and down (Grollman, 134). However, this is when a person finds that little things in life that make people get out of bed in the morning/afternoon or night, depending on how bad the pain might be (Grollman, 134). Maybe it’s a mom that calls them down for breakfast or the bus for school. When nothing else in the world gets the gears of life rolling, priorities and the people that genuinely matter keep a human afloat in their darkest moments (Persaud, 123). Why be sad for those who left when the people that will never leave are right by one’s side. In the midst of depression, the first of getting out is seeing which path to take. The best time to build up is when things are broken (Grollman, 134). After realizing that it’s going to be okay, one must force themselves down the path that best meets their goals. Against all the odds, they will prevail one day at a time doing the little things in life that have always brought them happiness (Persaud, 123). Channeling all that dark energy and making something positive until the pain makes up part of their being. It takes hard work, but in the end, one needs the pain in their life to make them the person they are today, a stronger version of themselves (Persaud, 123).

Heartbreak is a step for a person to mature and grow up from their naive self. When we are in a relationship, we tend to dream about a future where marriage with that person is likely to happen, and life is so perfect with them (Persaud, 123). As such, this leads us to invest a lot in that particular person and put everything else aside so we can make them happy. This way of thinking is prominent in teenagers since most of them are experiencing love for the first time. According to “Teenagers in Love” by Susan Moore, a psychology professor at University of Technology, she points out that “A study by Montgomery (2005) of nearly 500 young people aged 12 to 24 years, in which it was shown that older adolescents were less prone to romantic idealization than younger ones” (Moore 551). The majority of people finding their first love is likely to occur when they are in their adolescent years. Teenagers are the product of maturing because they are at a stage of their life where heartbreak has a high chance of happening. Teenager tends to move around like how their parents move to a different country or going to college and becoming an adult; this can affect the relationship and possibly ending it as an individual is a force to move on. This heartbreak is the first step to help mature an individual to become more independent and guide them to whatever is next (Moore, 551).

When everything is over, one can only reminisce about the person they used to be because that person is gone. It was left behind with all the other suffering that is just not needed anymore (Moore, 551). It has served its purpose of building character and mental strength. Overcoming adversity is a skill that gets tested for the first time during a heartbreak (Field, 217). A person that has endured pain in a lot of different ways can handle tough situations more comfortable since they are used to the high amount of distress. But for people who do not know what it’s like to deal with pain, heartbreak can be used as training wheels for what is left to come with the rest of life (Persaud, 123).

According to “Teenagers in Love,” Susan Moore explains that “with age and maturity come more realistic expectations and, hopefully, stronger capacities to make discerning partner choices…” (Moore, 551). As we develop physically and mentally, we can become stronger in a sense that next time something horrible happens in life that makes us end up depressed again, we will be more experiences in coping with it (Persaud, 123). The reasons may be different, but the stages of grief are always of the same respect to the individual. The more times that person goes through the process, the faster they will go through it again. That’s a great skill to have in life. People fall but being mentally strong to get up fast is a skill better to obtain on early (Field, 217).

Overall, heartbreak can be incredibly devastating in a relationship especially in adolescent years. Adolescent romantic relationships have their pros and cons, but that is the process of life (Grollman, 134). One should not compress their feeling to hide their emotions, instead, accept the fact that it was not meant to be. As such, this can be extremely beneficial to fill the empty hole that was dug by your old significant other, learning lessons that can make the next relationship stronger, and respect yourself more and know your worth in the world (Dennis, 168).

Work Cited

Dennis, Jeffery P. We boys together: Teenagers in love before girl-craziness. Vanderbilt    University Press,             2017.EBSCOhost,lscsproxy.lonestar.edu/login?url=http://search.ebscohost.com/login.asp  x?direct=true&AuthType=ip,cpid&custid=s1088435&db=a9h&AN=116593286&site=eh    ost-live.

Field, T. “Romantic Breakup Distress, Betrayal and Heartbreak: A Review.” Int J Behav Res        Psychol 5.2 (2017): 217-225.

Grollman, Earl A. Straight talk about death for teenagers: How to cope with losing someone you   love. Beacon Press, 2014.

Moore, Susan. “Teenagers in Love.” Psychologist, vol. 29, no. 7, July 2016, pp. 548-551.

Persaud, Raj. “‘Both sides need to keep the relationship going’.” BMJ: British Medical       Journal 326.7402 (2013): 1337.