early stage of development and Emotions intelligence
During the early stage of development, I witnessed relationship wrangles between my close friends. The relationship was on the bonding stage in that they had already started displaying their involvement in the public and suggesting the link was exclusive. However, the relationship never resulted in a marriage due to a turning point between the two. Trust and communication issues led to a change in the relationship focus resulting in separation.
Emotions intelligence played a significant role in the relationship at all stages. During the initial phase, the duo used emotion intelligence to build on each other character. Considerably, the duo used the information to build on each emotion and even to maintain a positive relationship (Peter, 2010). Notably, they participated in building each other focus in the relationship and shaping the future through participating in activities that oriented their life on the type of relationship they wished and emulated.
On the other hand, emotional intelligence helped their relationship by keeping on their secrets, which enabled the lasting of the intimate relationship since it remarkably created awareness and helped them to trace on the changes they encountered in daily life. Through building their emotional intelligence, they were able to check on sensitive matters and always sought the best love venture, which was significant to each other. Considerably, there were able to sense by participating in active awareness and empathy. Conversely, it made it easy to trace on the little changes and the dynamics involved in their romance and thus signaling the need for love action in their relationship. Emotion intelligence improved the relationship by guiding the duo in attaining and participating in activities that show them on the potential and the kind of love they both dreamt by promoting intimacy and the mutual kindness involved in love. Notably, it paved the way to deep caring and a real commitment by fostering empathy and the innate ability of the two in sharing their emotions and love experience.
The relationship between the two moved on for sometimes, and later it was affected by the barriers to active listening. In this case, impatience was the critical barrier whereby the two never took their time to trace on where they came from and even focus on their love in the future. Once they hand a simple quarrel, they could end up in fights and even threatening each other. The other barrier which played a significant role in the duo relationship breakdown was attitude (Mayer et al., 2001). At one time in the relationship, one of the partners caught the other cheating via the phone message. From this juncture, things changed, and in case one partner suspected a situation, they could not take time to listen to each other since they already had a negative attitude on each other.
As per the advice on the partner’s relationship, I could have advised them to let go of the past. This is through participating in intimate communication and realizing the mutual goal they had in their love. Notably, they could have a focus on the future of their love, which needs to be more promising. Considerably, they needed to check on the relationship set objective and the need to achieve these objectives. By considering such factors, it enables the partners to remain focused and thus making it easy to reach the relationship set future goals.
References page
Peter, P. C. (2010). Emotional intelligence. Wiley I