Empath Way of Healing

INTRODUCTION

The so-called mirror neurons in the brain activate intuition, and people automatically imitate what they perceive. As a highly sensitive species, human beings also unconsciously perceive certain signals, which, when combined with certain associations, trigger an associated feeling. In a way, empathy can also be described as emotional intelligence because we don’t know what other people are feeling. Nevertheless, our emotional intelligence enables our brain to assign certain signals to certain emotions.

Humans are social beings, and that is why sooner or later, everyone is in contact with other people. And at precisely these moments, empathy is very important for various reasons: Empathic people can put themselves in the position of their counterpart and thus understand more easily what their counterpart wants to communicate. Of course, it still matters how exactly the other person expresses himself and how exactly he communicates what he wants to convey. In principle, however, it is important to perceive the other person exactly and try to understand them in order to guarantee smooth communication. Among other things, misunderstandings can be avoided, which is helpful both in private and in the professional environment.

In friendships, partnerships, or family relationships, empathy is particularly important because long-term relationships can only be difficult without mutual understanding. In conflict situations, in particular, empathy can prevent a major conflict from breaking out. Empathic people are able to understand their counterparts, and the first step has already been taken. In the next step, it is important to accept the attitudes and views of the other person.

Empaths have a positive effect on relationships not only in conflict situations but in general. Because their empaths skills help them to know their fellow human beings better and better, they can see what makes their fellow humans sick. What are the quirks of their counterpart, how can they make their partner happy? What can they do to avoid conflicts in their relationship so as not to annoy their counterpart? Empathic people can gradually answer all these questions and thereby enable a harmonious get-together.

If you are empathetic and also honest with yourself, then you already have two important qualities to reflect on yourself. Because empathy can be useful not only in contact with others but also in contact with yourself, become aware of what thoughts or feelings you have yourself and then ask yourself why. Understand your own mistakes and quirks. Do not only think negatively but also allow compliments. Take a look at yourself in conflict situations. Try to go through life with high awareness so that you can perceive more. Through empathy and mindfulness, you can change and develop yourself.

CHAPTER ONE

EMPATHS METHOD OF HEALING

Listening with ultimate attention moves many things, reassures the other, and allows those who listen, friends, therapists or counselors any other element empaths can be, to feel within themselves love and affection for others.

Listening is a great opportunity for growth!. Empathy is a capacity, a faculty with which we are all equipped at the level of neuronal circuits, called mirror systems, which explain why we are automatically in relationship with others and able to reflect their feelings and emotions.

Empathy has to do with feeling, in addition to the brain, the heart. Empathy, the word itself says, which comes from the Greek, has to do with feeling, with the world of emotions. You cannot decide on a purely intellectual level to be empathetic. You ‘feel’ something, in the form, in fact, of a feeling, which leads to the other. Often he empathizes without knowing it.

Empathy goes beyond ‘compassion,’ that transmission of feelings that occurs very naturally, for example, when you see an injured person and feel immediately taken by his suffering. This is a human gesture that is at the basis of solidarity, of the help of others. But it is not precisely empathy.

Empathy is a decisive feeling in that it is certainly part of a family of feelings that are decisive for individual life, for collective life — friendship, love, sympathy, compassion, help, solidarity, altruism. However, empathy is rather the foundation, which guarantees the authenticity of all these forms of participation in the fate of others. It is a foundation that ensures that forms of dedication, sacrifice, and altruism can also be authentic.

Empathy, in other words, is the ability to realize, to take note of the value of the existence of the other. This gesture of recognition of the existence of the other, of their presence beside empaths in the world, in itself, is very important and absolutely does not depend on intellectual knowledge. It means admitting and recognizing the presence of the other as a person with a sensitivity, which has its own history.

Empaths always have the feeling of being with others as others are always with them so much so that they often have close contacts that are annoying, as for example, in the subway. Where one is in close contact with a number of people, but this being in close contact with others does not mean being in an empathic relationship with them at all: not even looking them in the eye, rather avoiding their gaze. Indeed, it is easy to be even afraid to meet the other’s gaze.

Therefore, always be with others, in contact with others, or always “connected” through the network, or through the mass media that make empaths participate daily in rendering necessary assistance to others. Often in real-time, in the lives, worries, and even the joys of many people, the most different from them, do not in themselves favor communication or participation in their destiny, or even simply the desire to understand how another feels, thinks and desires.

Empathy is a meeting and should be physical to allow for an exchange of sensations. It can be simply visual: an image on television of a hollow face, of a boy who is sick and has no food, of an abandoned elderly man. Feeling, however, can also involve, or listening to, physical contact.

Empathy is a capacity with which we are all endowed, not enough, which must, therefore, be trained and exercised. Only by practicing this type of involvement, interest, and enhancement of the existence of other people very different from us, with whom perhaps it is a bit difficult to have a dialogue, can all gestures of solidarity and altruism be solid and authentic and our life itself will gain in solidity.

CHAPTER TWO

EMPATHS AS EFFECTIVE LEADERS

In the modern world, one of the main priorities for many companies is to go beyond the framework of traditional strategies in the development of management and staff selection – to create leading personnel capable of moving the organization forward. And this is not surprising, because an ineffective leader can lead the company to big losses – this kind of unprofessionalism will cost the company too much. Human resources specialists and company executives are constantly developing strategies to improve the effectiveness of managers, figuring out what skills are now most needed. One of the key skills, surprisingly, is empathy. Empathy is a conscious empathy with another person’s current emotional state.

Why is an empath good leader?

Perhaps, then, that empaths promote effective communication, helps to understand psychologically difficult situations, and to predict people’s choices and actions create a feeling of psychological comfort. For effective and efficient work with staff, you need to understand the essence of the true motives of the employee’s actions, the origins of his interests, the causes of lies, or isolation. If you have ever encountered the formation of a team, then confirm that inside it (especially at the stage of the “storm”), a variety of emotions are raging, which are extremely difficult to control and direct in a constructive direction. Figuring a ship through a storm is a daunting task for every captain. And in order to achieve a positive result, it is necessary not only to listen but also to understand the point of view of each member of the “crew,” to come to common opinion,

If a company has an incentive system based on an individual approach, then only through empathic listening also called active listening can she determine the internal motives of each employee, which means you will get to the point by making a specific motivational offer to a specific unique specialist, expert. And – as a result of a competent study of the motivation system – solve the problem of retaining key specialists in the company. And in our time of high competition, the last task is especially urgent: a talented specialist, an expert, can be a talented manager or leader. Accordingly, when “good” people leave, very often, they take away their entire team.

If a company practice was mentoring, it is important for the boss to implement empathy in a mentor-student relationship. Of course, before students are transferred to a mentor, they will conduct professional testing – and analysis of his knowledge and skills. In this case, we must not forget that no tests can replace “live” communication. Successful communication is an understanding of the goals and objectives of the interlocutor, the motives, the reasons for his actions and statements. The mentor who knows exactly how to “push” his student to the desired result, how to submit new professional information correctly, how to give feedback motivating success will be effective.

It is believed that the empathic understanding of the interlocutor depends on the level of wealth of one’s own life experience, the ability to tune in to the same emotional wave with a person.

CHAPTER THREE

LEADERSHIP FEATURES OF EMPATHS

What is meant by leadership

leadership is the ability to manage a group of people or an organization by ensuring that there is a clear vision of the objectives to be achieved, that all members of the “team” are motivated to work towards the common goal and that internal conflicts between the various members of the group are resolved.

Although the characteristics are required by all leaders, there are various types of leadership. Some are based on putting personal gains before the needs of the group, on the use of manipulation techniques and on arrogant and narcissistic attitudes.

On the contrary, an empathic leader will be able to put himself in the shoes of the other members of the group. He will also try to understand the needs of the market and its consumers, and in doing so, he will be able to give each customer exactly what he needs.

And that’s not all, and an empathic leader will also be able to effectively communicate the tasks to be carried out to the group, in order to awaken in them the desire to work and making the goals they reach feel their own.

Start with yourself. Live in harmony with your “I,” be positive, and transfer your spiritual comfort, optimistic feelings, and attitude towards life into relationships with friends and colleagues around you. Look for individual ways of interaction that will help to unlock potential both yours and your interlocutor, find resources for fruitful cooperation.

Sometimes people tend to confuse pity and empathy. Remember that pity can harm business, but empathy is not. Empathy is alien to indifference. This is an understanding of the difficult tragic or, conversely, happy situation of the employee and the opportunity if necessary to help him.

If the principles of mutual understanding and care are absent at the core of the organization’s corporate culture, this is fraught with very undesirable consequences. When in the hope of achieving high financial performance, the leader uses destructive methods and strategic techniques (for example, artificially creates a crisis to stimulate staff activity), he is unlikely to be able to increase employee motivation.

On the contrary, a constructive and responsive approach helps to create a healthy climate and achieve good commercial results. Empathy allows you to develop the organization’s potential successfully, helps to increase the number of employees with outstanding leadership qualities, strengthens the corporate spirit, improves the efficiency of fulfilling client requests, and strengthens the sense of responsibility. Empathy can spread to the whole team when it is perceived as a social norm. When a leader constantly emphasizes the importance of empathy for successful corporate development and sets an example of sensitive behavior, this alone triggers the mechanism of the development of empathy into a universal ethical norm. As a result, the team spirit, enthusiasm, and dedication of the company are strengthened among subordinates. It is also worth noting that the staff,

Emotions contain very important information, and they fill the life of each organization, so the leader must learn how to cope with them, manage them. Ignoring them is a dead-end because they will not get away from it.

An empathic leadership will develop five basic skills: empathy, enthusiasm, kindness, serenity and the ability to set limits;

Empathy

An empathic leader puts himself in the shoes of others. But empathy does not just about entail understanding what others think rationally: empathic leaders have the ability to predict the reactions of others.

Few people have this innate ability to identify with others. However, recent research shows that it is absolutely possible for most people to work on their empathy.

Enthusiasm

An empathetic leader is capable of conveying his desire to create and produce to the rest of the team. This is because his way of managing is not based on obliging others to carry out his duties, but on the ability to instill courage and motivation.

An empathic leader is capable of putting energy and passion into everything he does, arranges, proposes, and realizes, thus setting a good example for his colleagues.

Kindness

Being able to put himself in the shoes of the other members of his group, thanks to his sense of justice and his sensitivity to problems, the empathic leader also manages to find solutions to problems by placing himself with kindness.

This does not mean that he goes to work to make friends with his employees, but that he is firmly convinced that being at least friendly contributes to maintaining a good working relationship and to the unity of the group. Coming into confidence with their employees allows them to push them to focus on their strengths, acting in the interest of the group.

Serenity

An empathetic leader is able to remain calm even in difficult, emotionally trying, or stressful situations. In order to manage his group effectively, he sets a good example. He is aware of the challenge of losing the respect and esteem of his employees if he gets carried away by his impulses.

Ability to set limits

The last characteristic that an empathic leader possesses is the ability to set limits, both personally and professionally. Despite being able to empathize with the other members of his team, he is able to impose himself and keep his distance when necessary.

CHAPTER FOUR

EMPATHS EMPOWERMENT

Empath ability is not only to understand a person and sympathize with him but also to completely immerse in the inner world and feel a specific situation of thing happening in his environment. This is a rare gift of the empaths.

Empathic abilities can be divided into several levels. The ability is based on the power of the soul, what the ancient souls are called in esotericism. Yes, it is souls, souls as a manifestation of life, as a person. Psychic empaths can see – feel this power of the soul, identify and describe its parameters. They can also communicate with the soul in the language of feelings, emotions, aspirations, desires, intentions if there is a predisposition to such communication and certain skills. The language of communication of the soul is much more complicated and informative than the usual verbal form of communication. Indeed, in words, they have multiple ways of taking control of things that happen around them. Empaths in their working environments;

FEEL THE STIMULUS OF THE OFFICE IN A VERY INTENSE WAY

They listen a lot and which gives them reasons to process numerous pieces of information from outside.

For this reason, a chaotic working environment annoys empathetic people and reduces their productivity.

ARE VERY SENSITIVE PEOPLE

They understand the mood of colleagues and participate sincerely in it. They don’t try to cheer you up by distracting you from what ails you, but they sit next to you and share your pain. Furthermore, as they share your own working environment, they are able to understand the situation very well and are often able to anticipate your mood swings.

ABSORB THE EMOTIONS OF OTHERS

If we pour dye into the water of a vase of roses, the roses will drink that water and absorb the dye until they change color themselves. Empathetic people are like these roses; they absorb the surrounding emotions and make them their own.

So the tension of the boss translates into their tension. The energy of a colleague becomes energy that they can use at work.

OFTEN ARE INTRO VERSE

The hyper-sensory stimulation and the subordination to the mood of those around them push empathetic people to prefer peaceful situations and often even loneliness.

Living under the emotions of others is very tiring and requires long periods of rest away from everything and everyone. Obviously, it is not possible to physically detach from work for long periods. Therefore it can happen that at times they seem a little absorbed and bewildered.

ARE VERY INTUITIVE

Emotions are always more sincere than words. Those who understand emotions have the key to go beyond the door of rhetoric and lay bare the intentions of others.

We translate this skill with the word intuition, but it is a problem solving that also examines the emotional variables, and for this reason, it is more effective, especially in jobs that require interpersonal skills.

INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS CONCERN

Intimacy with a colleague, even mild, implies absorbing his emotions. For this reason, empaths often prefer to stand on the sidelines and not participate in extra-working office life.

ARE TARGETED BY PEOPLE WHO SUCK ENERGY

The empathic people are always very available to everyone, despite the fact that for them, this means a great deal of time, energy, and sometimes even mental and physical well-being.

Precisely because of their availability, they are targeted by those who are ready to take advantage of the kindness of others. They are the ones to which colleagues put paperwork on the table that they do not want to hurry.

MUST SPEND TIME ALONE

Responding to all these external requests obliges them to recharge. We all recharge our energy when we enter our comfort zone; for some, it is the partner, for others, a friend, family, parents. For empathic people, the only comfort zone is solitude.

LOVE NATURE

In addition to companionship, recharging energies also requires a suitable setting. We have already said that empathetic people are very sensitive to perceptive stimuli, so the city is not for them. In the city environment, most of the stimuli are artificial (cars, the rattling of the tram, telephones ringing, jobs, etc.), therefore very tiring.

The noises of nature are softer and do not impact the senses; indeed, they are a relaxing soundtrack.

OFTEN ALLOW TOO MUCH

They struggle to say no and find themselves in the paradox of putting their needs behind those of others. Obviously, there are those who take advantage of this character trait of empathetic people.

Needless to warn them of this, they already know. Only they can’t deny themselves.

CHAPTER FIVE

SOCIAL AND CULTURAL LIFE OF EMPATHS

Empaths are highly sensitive. Their sensitivity is attuned to feelings and emotions around them, even if they are not affected directly. For all store attendants, bank tellers, or customers with whom he has to interact, the empath leaves some kind of feeling to every individual. If the person in contact with the empath has some challenges, suddenly a tie feels as if he is not happy. If they have been offended, the ties are not pleased for apparently no reason. It changes based on the kind of person with whom they come in contact and can make them constantly tired and energy drained.

For Empathic people that do not possess a high level of sensitivity, it may seem that those empaths are excessively introverted, but there are other determinant factors that could have caused that. Some empaths are not introvert. As an empath, it means an individual has the ability to feel mental feelings and emotions, which could be physical in some people. This makes them easily attached by conditions attached to feeling such as anxiety attacks, body aches, depression, or compulsions for alcohol, food, and sex that cannot be explained. This implies that empaths need to focus a lot on self-care than other people around because of their excessive care for the society. Some people believe being an empath is not a challenge, and they prefer being around empaths. For these people, they will find it difficult to understand why an empath needs to focus more on self-care.

Keeping a love relationship with empaths requires some level of understanding and research. Whenever an empath is in a crowd, it can have an adverse effect on him. Empaths absorb the feeling and emotion of everyone in the crowd. It is like falling in a pool of water where you are unable to select which part of the pool you wish to touch you, and which you will like to avoid. Parties and other gatherings are not saved for empaths to attend even when it seems fine for them to attend.

The love of an empath also comes with the knowledge of understanding that they are unable to explain their own feeling sometimes. This is caused by the tons of information that need to be processed by the mind of the empath and cannot be easily transferred to family and friends verbally. Empaths will sometimes have taught and feeling but will be oblivious of the kind of words or other methods of communication to be used in telling others about it. This is a part of their life they can’t control even if they want to.

Empaths are attracted to toxicity in their life. This is against their personal will. They listen attentively to people’s claims and are always willing to help people out of every situation. They are generous and kind even to strangers. They are always available to listen, render a shoulder for people lean on and pour out whatever could be on their mind even when they know it is difficult for them to help people out of their situations, they help with the necessary information and encouragement to boost their client confidence.

Empaths care so much about the people around them. Being able to see these unhealthy relationships and get away from them will be one of the best things you can do to love an empath. Loving a tie means accepting that you won’t be able to hide things from them. They are essentially human polygraphs, which means that if you are not honest, an empath will know, even if he cannot identify exactly what.

For some, their caution or half-truths do not necessarily break agreements, especially if they can identify the root cause. For others, being romantic with a person who is not being transparent with them will be exhausting, and they will quickly break up the relationship.

Staying in love with an empath means you need to give them some time to be alone, watching movies, taking a walk, or just sit around the corner only to get fresh air and process their own feelings. This doesn’t mean empaths don’t want to relate with their loved ones, but it’s just a method for managing their personal mind challenges.

Staying in a relationship with an empath has lots of benefits. They have only a single choice of giving their best to people around them even when they are hurt. They give people around their options, even when their loved ones are not trying enough. They keep close contact with their loved ones. They try to know whatever might be on their lovers’ minds and help their loved ones solve whichever problem or challenge they might encounter. Empaths want everyone around them to be successful and happy always no matter what they have to sacrifice as an individual during the process.

By empathy, we mean the ability of a human being to perceive the mood and feelings of another person, thus realizing an emotional harmony towards him, which allows him to share his inner experiences and emotions. Empathy is the focus on another person’s inner world, characterized by the ability to intuit what is moving in it, perceiving their emotions and their authentic moods, often different from those expressed verbally and gesturally. Empathy is a direct emotional contact between two human beings, capable of tuning their inner experiences completely independent of their mental and perceptual schemes. Simplifying the concepts just expressed it could be said that the

In addition to identifying with the other and deep understanding of his point of view, empaths are able to hold on to their point of view when interacting with others empathy value the emotion and teaching of others. They easily socialize and meet new people with their kind and loving gestures towards people in their new and old environments. The empathic fusion does not cause the loss of one’s own points of reference and of one’s feelings to fulfill oneself; the understanding of the other is achieved by constantly maintaining awareness of oneself and one’s point of view. Self-control never fails, and the other’s feelings are understood and shared without, however, replacing their own.

Empaths are sometimes criticized and judged when evaluated by others who don’t feel empathy on their fellow humans and animals; the sharing of feelings and emotions takes place in a completely neutral and spontaneous climate, which does not produce any type of moral or regulatory judgment. There is no right, and there is no wrong, no directives are introduced, and the focus of attention is exclusively the inner emotional experience.

At this point, it is good to specify that empaths relate and enjoy social life like every other person around in society. Empathic people do not only have painful experiences and feelings; being empathic means knowing how to share any type of experience, positive or negative, with another person.

CHAPTER SIX

HOW DOES ANXIETY REDUCE EMPATHY?

People who experience anxiety, especially when they experience a panic attack, know perfectly well that the world instantly reduces themselves. During a panic attack, the emotional brain takes over, turns off the rational brain, and only cares about its survival. Therefore, a person who suffers a panic attack while flying does not worry about the fact that the plane has to divert its route, and this affects the plans of hundreds of passengers. At that moment, that person who only thinks is on the mainland.

Anxiety makes us more egocentric than anger or pride. People who experience anxiety are more likely to provide self-centered responses or take longer to put themselves in the place of the other. In fact, they are more selfish than any other category of people around them. The higher the level of anxiety, the more difficult it is for these people to assume another’s perspective.

Why does anxiety reduce our ability to be empathic?

People became more self-centered when they experienced a greater degree of uncertainty. In fact, while indignation or pride generates a strong sense of security, anxiety and surprise undermine our confidence as we do not know what will happen in the immediate future.

Obviously, when our bases falter, and we feel insecure, we have the tendency to look back in the search for certainties, we lock ourselves in our feelings, and we lock ourselves in our perspective to look for something to cling to. Therefore, it is not surprising that in times of crisis, when there is extreme uncertainty, people’s positions are radicalized, despite empathy.

Without a doubt, it is a very interesting phenomenon, especially because we live in a society that continuously adds a lot of stress to our lives, a stress that can become anxiety causing us to lose the ability to connect with others and Let us recruit into our egocentric worldview.

Now, more than ever, we need to strengthen the muscles of empathy. And it is not very difficult, and we can do it by practicing active listening more frequently, instead of continually throwing up our problems.

We can also try to put ourselves in the shoes of others, instead of going directly to a critical attitude. When we find the difference, instead of turning our backs and pretending that it does not exist, we must try to understand it, even if we do not share it. Tolerance is an important value for living in an increasingly globalized world.

CHAPTER SEVEN

RELATIONSHIP WITH AN EMPATH

Empaths are also thought to be people who have unique personality types. Their sensory levels are constantly alert, which means that they are very sensitive to the vibrations of the energy levels around them and are also incredibly intuitive with a high sense of self-awareness.

It is extremely important to understand traits, peculiarities, and characteristics of an empath in order to form deeper and stronger relationships with them that will survive and thrive. And, to have a deep and satisfying relationship with an empath, it is important to know a few things about them.

Empathic people have been fragile since childhood. Why this is actually the case with empaths is primarily due to the essential characteristic of empathy itself. It causes such people to have distinctive antennas for others. You are, so to speak, permanently switched to the reception.

Even in their childhood, empaths not only get the visibility of their environment but, above all, also subtle things as served on the presentation plate. On the one hand, this, of course, brings some advantages; on the other hand, this talent can also be extremely stressful. After all, the Homo Sapiens not only has positive aspects in it but also has its downsides.

Empaths are confronted early on with the true nature of the human being. This fact must inevitably have consequences for further personal development. Of course, it is unusual (probably also not appropriate) to explain to a child that people per se are probably more character weaknesses than strengths.

An inexperienced person, who still needs a lot of love and positive things for his personal development, must inevitably come to the conclusion that something in the world cannot be right. What has to come comes: A child who is empathetic is confronted with the full range of life far too early.

Empaths decide early on in life to be more careful of people. However, wanting to master your emotional life with a certain degree of caution always leads to subliminal mental tension, which fundamentally negatively affects heart activity and breathing. This contradicts the inner development of a sufficient vital force.

So empaths quickly become dependent on having to receive life energy from others. The quickest way to achieve this is through external recognition, love, and attention. However, if this additional surge of energy suddenly fails, such as in an unhappy love affair, empaths are without sufficient vitality. The latent mental instability comes to light again, and suffering arises.

In love, empathic people run the risk of suffering psychological injuries. However, there are other peculiarities in the empathic love life: empaths carry an “inner knowledge” about “true love.” This mysterious “inner blueprint” about a very specific idea of love is also due to empathy itself.

Due to the wide extended antennas, the essential characteristic of a strong intuition arises. A kind of extrasensory ability through which empaths also provides all kinds of diffuse and subliminal information about the world. So it can be explained that especially empaths have a certain “inner wisdom.” Love relationships are no exception.

On the one hand, empaths know the absolute ideal of how a “true love” could go perfectly, on the other hand, they are often confronted with life situations that conflict with their “inner wisdom.” At least empaths are at least forced to hit the ground hard sometimes. Not because, objectively speaking, their partnerships are going badly, but because deep down, there is a tendency to idealize love.

If one also takes their high vulnerability into account, it can be quickly understood that it is almost impossible that the love life of empaths can be straightforward:

Experience shows that empathic people are confronted with all the ups and downs of love

And this for life. It is greater than striking that almost all facets of love have to be experienced. While such highly emotional life constellations gradually disappear in the course of their lives in the case of non-empaths, this generally does not apply to empaths- even in the second half of life, empaths can still be affected by a storm of passion.

The term “hero of love” is now understandable. To repeat: empaths are highly vulnerable beings, have an inner blueprint about a very specific love ideal, and are faced with all issues of love for life.

As a result, you need a heroic attitude not to lose your mental stability, your belief in love, and a positive life. This requires great emotional courage, a lot of life experience, and a deep belief in his own fate. If you let the whole thing go through your head soberly, a very specific question comes to mind:

Why do empathic people have such a love life?

Do empaths have to follow some kind of provision? Is there a very specific topic that particularly empathetic people have to deal with emotionally in their lives? What are the reasons why empathizing, in particular, are so intensely confronted with love issues – and this throughout their lives?

The answer is not given by science, but by empaths that can look back on a long life. Particularly empathic people who are blessed with the wisdom of old age report the same thing conspicuously. Across the bench, they only realized afterward that their love partners were always only a mirror of themselves.

Only in retrospect did they notice that love practically forced them to have to deal with themselves again and again. Almost all European Championships, which have reached the second half of their lives, come to the conclusion that the ultimate consequence was always only one life topic:

Empath likely to be in their lives only so intensively confronted all facets of love, because it comes to the development of self-love goes

As a result, there can only be one explanation for the heroic love life of empaths. They do not carry this mysterious blueprint of “true love” because they want it to be fulfilled on the outside, but rather on the inside.

CHAPTER EIGHT

EMOTIONS OF EMPATHS

Empaths don’t need to know the origin of their friend’s problem before they get inclined to those feelings and moods. Talking about things is an important factor in romance in the love tie. Empaths are much more understanding of relationships. They want people around to have rest of mind, and all try to have a rest of mind within. The disadvantage is caused by the simple truth that empaths people can repress feelings and build high barriers so as not to make others aware of their most intimate feelings. This retention of their emotional feelings can be a result of an experience with others, an education without expression, or what might have been heard when a child is much younger.

Undoubtedly, this emotional retention can be harmful to health, because most of their taught and/or feelings are not released, in order to have more power to build. Feeling and/or thought can later become unbearable, if not disabling. Empaths show their love and affection to their loved ones if when they are given proper affection. Failure to do so may result in the collapse and result in emotional/mental instability or the development of physical sickness or disease.

Empathic people react to things in films, television, news broadcast, and videos. Emotional or violent dramas with scary scenes of people with emotional or pain inflicted on children, animals, or adults can easily bring an empath to tears. Sometimes they can even stifle tears or feel physically ill. Some empaths will find it difficult to understand such cruelty and may have serious difficulties in saying what is on the mind to another person who has ignorance, a closed mind.

Empaths find comfort within and are relaxed and comforting with animals, people, or nature with a real passion and interest in helping them. Empaths are tireless caregivers, counselors, therapists, and in most of the environment that we find them. Empaths are always willing to give their time and money for people without expecting any physical reward in return.

Most empaths love music. It helps to reduce the heavy taught in their mind. Sometimes, empaths show a strange reaction to their music habit by listening to any random music they find and not trying to follow a single flow of music. Music may bring tears to their eyes and nostalgia if its lyrics have a connection with a recent event.

They are as expressive with words as they are with body language, feelings, and thought. They are very creative in dancing, theater, music, or body movements. Empaths show a large amount of energy while expressing their feeling and thoughts. Empaths can get carried away by the music, to the point of being almost in a state of trance; they forget everything around them while listening to music through the motion of their physical bodies. This feeling is described by empaths a period when everything else seems like they do not exist to them.

People generally are drawn animals to the genuine and warm compassion of the empath. Not concerned if others know that they are empathic or not. People are attracted to them like an iron or steel object for a magnet, although some are also pushed aside.

They are the great listeners to everyone, and even strangers find it easy to communicate with empathy and tell them about the thing that they find too difficult to tell every person around them. They give everyone a warm welcome into their life, making it easy for people to pour out their taught to them. They can be friendly, enthusiastic, hubby, and it is always comforting to be with them, just as they can be highly humorous in most unusual times! On the other hand, empaths are sometimes thoughtful, with the swing in the mood when people are with them. The feelings and thoughts that empathic people receive from everywhere and at any time in their lives can be so immense, making their feelings to change very quickly. In a moment, they can be in a good mood and, just like the speed of light, experience a change in mood in the next second.

Abandoning a tie in the midst of change in moods can bring about harmful conditions. There are benefits of loving an empath you have a caring soul, and listening hears. Empaths are mostly unaware of what happens inside them. They are unaware that the burden they are carrying on their mind is someone else’s and not actually theirs and, consequently, shown outwardly. Empaths are confused because, in a moment, everything was fine, and soon afterward, they are lonely, depressed, etc. The urge to realize the empathic connection mind and feelings is an important part of the journey of the empaths, both for others around them and for themselves.

Empathic people are often thinkers, scholars, and problem-solvers of numerous things. With regard to empathic people, as far as there is a problem, there is a solution. They will often go in search of problems and try to solve them even when they are not connected to such situations. This is a beneficial characteristic for their colleagues at work and families in the home. Empaths have a way of finding a solution to every task, even if it looks difficult to discover.

Empaths are dreamers who find it difficult to focus on what is mundane or futile. If life is not stimulating enough, an empath can enter a separate mood change easily. They go anywhere, somewhere, in a thought that seems to be detached from physical reality and may seem to others who are at a distance. If a teacher or speaker is speaking with little or no emotion, empathic people will find it difficult to adapt to this type of teaching or communication and may have to to a daydreaming condition even if it is unintentional.

CHAPTER NINE

HOW EMPATHS CHILDREN GROW

The enormous reward of being attentive and aware is that, while one dedicates himself to nurturing it emotionally and understanding who it is, empaths children are blessed with life teachers who offer them endless moments of magic and blessing, while giving them opportunities to experience the deepest feelings of connection and love. Children of empaths come into contact again and again with what is most important in life: the fact of being able to share their pain with their parent, always having a guide that provides containment, support, and love.

Understanding and compassion for other people are skills that are discovered naturally in the kids raised by empaths. Children of empaths are shown love and compassion by their parents, and they mostly grow to live with that with others;

An empath feels very anxious when their baby cries or when they complain. They feel that having children has significantly increased your stress levels. They are on high alert and are worried about their child’s safety. They are caring that people think their care and love for their children is too much.

Empathic parents are extremely in tune with their child, and they notice any change in the way the child reacts even if it is how the child cries or whines. They shrink when their child feels cry; also, whenever the child is hurt by himself or by his peer mate, they have a sudden increase in the level of stress in their daily because of their own child. Sometimes, the experience is more unbearable for them than for him or her. They can’t even imagine that their son “cries,” even if it means that they themself suffer endless nights of insomnia.

Empaths stress increase naturally because of their own child, and they are always surprised when they see other parents feel comfortable to see their own child play around and even get hurt without the parent calling for caution while their child plays. Empaths believe other parents are too relaxed and will need to be more vigilant about what their child does and who their kids will have to play with.

But it is surprising that research has proven that empathic parents are the best in giving a child a perfect upbringing with the necessary guide and support needed for the child to grow smart and healthy. Empathic parents select the best meal and activities for their own child, making it easy for their kids to grow healthy and strong. Empaths children are proven to be more balanced and physically healthier amongst their mates. They show love to others as much as their own parent has shown to them. They protect their own friends from a bully when defending them whenever necessary.

However, there some challenging features about the empaths. It has been proven that empaths have greater self-esteem and a higher sense of purpose for their own child. This is a positive feeling as it helps the child to have a greater purpose in life, which is actually a positive impact on the child. Children of empathic parents are, most of the time, successful because of the care and support they get from their parents. They only encounter little stress, which is actually good for their metal and body alertness; other burdens are carried by their parent, making it easier for them to focus on necessary things. These children also have empathy in them, which makes their immune system stronger and help to improve their psychological life here by giving them a happy relationship with their parents.

CHAPTER TEN

FAMILY LIFE OF EMPATHS

Only a family that knows how to face the world with a look of understanding, tolerance, and empathy can make truly transformative changes. In an increasingly hostile and aggressive world, it is difficult to educate in empathy. But it is not enough to talk to children about this virtue and how to practice it, we must be an example and lead this family transformation that drives us to go against the current and fight the hardness of our society with kindness, empathy, and charity.

Many times we repeat that change in the world is achieved through families. But not just any family: only a family that knows how to face the world with a look of understanding, tolerance, and empathy can make truly transformative changes. Parents, as first educators, have the responsibility of educating and, at the same time, being an example of these virtues in each of our families.

It is not enough to talk about the good, and you have to experience it: in our busy and comfortable lives, it is difficult as a family to find a situation in which together we can experience what it means to do good, that is why we must look for these situations. A mission trip or humanitarian aid, one-afternoon distributing food to the needy, participating in a charitable activity of the church or visiting the elderly and sick, are opportunities that we offer our family to experience the good. It’s not just aiming at our children, and it’s that they see us in action too and can learn from our example. The joy of giving, shared as a family, is double joy.

Let’s not be afraid of differences: many times we create for our children an antiseptic environment in which only people very similar to them are exposed. We must get out of this bubble and encourage ourselves to seek different friendships, from other backgrounds, creeds, and abilities. Our family will benefit greatly from going out into the real world and knowing how to accept the differences of others with tolerance, understanding that not everyone is equal and that we must understand others in order to love them.

A screen does not change our behavior: today, the most terrible signs of intolerance, aggressiveness, and lack of empathy are made through social networks. People hide under a pseudonym to express opinions full of hate and intolerance, thus leading a double life. As families, we must teach our children that this is not acceptable: we are the same person inside and outside the networks, and what we do there, even under a pseudonym, affects us because it affects our personality. Parents should be the first example, and not fall into situations that show our children that we are different in the networks outside them.

The real change begins within the home: the only way to maintain an empathic family is to have empathy first practiced within the same walls. We would have to ask ourselves, then, do the brothers help each other? Do we know how to put ourselves in each other’s shoes when he is tired and help him even if he does not provoke us? Are we able to give up our position or give in our tastes to make life enjoyable to the other? These are essential questions to answer if we want our family to look out with mercy. Because as the saying goes: “Charity begins at home …”

CHAPTER ELEVEN

PERSONAL VALUE OF AN EMPATH

Empathy is definitely one of the directions and manifestations of extrasensory perception. What psychology calls spontaneous empathy is not empathy; it’s just empathic people, a level close to empathy but not empathy in the full sense of the word.

The first signs of empathy, this is the ability to intentionally, albeit with great difficulty, but to read the feelings of the emotions of another person. Empathic abilities can be divided into several levels. The ability is based on the power of the soul, which is

what the ancient souls are called in esotericism. Yes, it is Souls, Souls as a

manifestation of life, as a person. Psychics – empaths can see – feel these power Souls, identify and

describe its parameters. You can also communicate with the soul in the language of feelings, emotions, aspirations, desires, intentions if there is a predisposition to such communication and certain skills. The language of communication of the Soul is much more complicated and informative than the usual verbal form of communication. Indeed, in words, we are only trying to describe what we are experiencing.

With their unique abilities, empaths are able to determine whether you are telling the truth or not accurately. Do not waste your time and energy, trying to come up with a believable lie. Empath already knows the whole truth.

An interesting fact: people who are able to accurately determine the emotions and feelings of others (and sympathize with them) are a kind of lie detector. With their unique abilities, they are able to determine whether you are telling the truth or not accurately.

Empaths are able to feel the emotions of people around them, determine the general emotional state of the person with whom they are communicating at the moment, and empathize with him. This ability helps them take their interpersonal intelligence to a new level.

However, developed interpersonal intelligence often leads to empathy in confusion. People around us, including the closest and dearest, often hide their real feelings, emotions, intentions, and motives. Empaths are able to determine them accurately. They see everything that a person is trying to hide behind a mask of joy (indifference, etc.). They hope that people will be frank with that, but this does not happen.

If you want to build a close relationship with an empath, it is best always to be honest with him. These people feel a lie inside. This is why empaths are excellent lie detectors:

1. They feel when a person is hiding something.

Strong emotions, such as jealousy, cannot be hidden. Even if you constantly smile and try to portray happiness, you will not be able to deceive the empathy. He feels inside when something is hidden from him. You can fool anyone, but not empathy.

2. They know that not everything is as good as you say.

If you have something wrong, a real empath will feel it. He will not believe that everything is in order with you, even if you tell him about it a thousand times. Empaths want the people with whom they communicate to be as frank as possible with them. If you can fully trust someone, then this is empathy.

3. They even hear what you are not saying.

It really is. Empaths notice the slightest change in your voice, tone, and timbre. Among other things, such a person knows that silence can mean a lot. Empath knows what your silence is talking about.

4. They notice when you do not allow yourself to be yourself.

The personality of each of us is unique. We are all not alike. Some people are afraid to be what they are. Do you also belong to this category of people? The empath will certainly understand this.

A sensitive person is able to see what you cannot see. For example, how beautiful your true personality is. When dealing with empathy, allow yourself to be yourself. Believe me, and you will not regret it.

5. They instantly recognize negative personalities.

Negative people cannot live without drama and chaos. They personally bring these things into the life of the people around them and benefit from it for themselves.

A true empath is able to instantly recognize a person trying to bring negativity into his life. He will establish certain rules in dealing with such a person and try to stay away from him as far as possible.

6. They see everything that is reflected in your eyes.

Empath sees right through you. That is why you should always be 100% honest with such a person. Be straightforward and open. If it hurts you and you suffer, the empath will see it. If it’s very difficult for you now, he will understand this as well. Empaths are able to see all this in your eyes. Just one look and they will already understand how you feel.

You do not need to lie to empathy. These are some of the most caring and helpful people on this planet. If someone is able to really understand and empathize, it’s them. Such people will never judge you.

Do not waste your time and energy, trying to come up with a believable lie. Empath already knows the whole truth.

CONCLUSION

Empathy is the ability accurately to the idea – and feelings of other people empathize. This makes it easier to predict (anticipate) the behavior of individual people or entire communities (teams or organizations ) and to adapt to them in a targeted manner.

Empaths deserve to live freely like every other human. They have the ability and prowess to make an organization move forward. They can build a perfect home with their own partner and also their own kids. Empaths pay an important role in the life of their loved ones. They get emotionally attached to the functions of their loved ones easily while protecting their loved ones.

There different types and different levels of empathy. You need emotional empathy to create trusting interpersonal relationships. Without cognitive empathy, it is hardly possible to conduct successful negotiations or to resolve conflicts constructively. And those who have no social empathy will never develop a sense of how to create a productive corporate culture or team spirit.

The ability to understand and correctly predict the behavior of other people or a team goes beyond pure (passive) compassion. It is an important core competence (skill) in many professions and is considered the most important management competence.

The ability to feel other people’s feelings (fear, joy, depression, admiration, etc.) Empaths are people who are able to feel other people’s emotions as their own. For the most part, empaths are artists, poets, writers, musicians, etc. In general, people who are closely involved in creating and depend on emotions. Such people very finely feel others, their mood, and sometimes can read other people’s thoughts combining their experience and the feelings of other people; they reproduce through themselves those thoughts that might come to their mind if they feel the same (they can also predict actions another man). Empaths are not at all dangerous, but there is no protection against them. They can feel a person whose emotions are especially sensitive (beloved or beloved, children, mothers, fathers, etc.), for thousands of kilometers.

• Empath, at times, sensing emotions directed at him. Emotions must be strong and apply strictly to Empath.
• Empath feels diffused emotions, including those directed at him, but cannot distinguish a person. (read a person’s thoughts directed clearly at Empathy)
• Empathy can clearly distinguish a person whose emotions he senses.
• An empath may feel rigidly oriented emotions directed not at him.
• An empath may feel diffused emotions directed not at him. And it can highlight a person whose emotions he feels.
• The empath can read the mind of a person whose scattered emotions are directed, including at Empath.
• The empath can inspire people with their emotions.

Empathy is also characteristic of mystics. Such mystics can feed on the emotions of people or become famous artists, writers, actors, etc. because Empath’s talent in them is added to their extraordinary “luckiness.”

No, do not envy empaths. It’s hard to feel and not know whether it’s your feelings, causeless depression, or bouts of hysterical laughter. And an almost constant headache. Empaths rarely appear at parties and discos, rather you will find them at home in peace and quiet. Empathy is part of life, and you have to pay for everything in this life. The fee for such a dubious gift is limited communication with people. Empaths feel a person the way he feels. Few can communicate with those who can read them like an open book. Empathy is also not easy, because, in addition to their own feelings, the feelings of the interlocutor or interlocutors also pile on them.

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