RATIONALIZATION IN MODERN PROCESSES

RATIONALIZATION IN MODERN PROCESSES

            Sometimes life tend to be very hard especially in marriage relationships and to be able to manage heartbreaks, anger, fear and violence in those relationship couples tend to turn into rationalization as a source of comfort. And sure it works because possibilities of divorce and unexpected breakups become minimal (Antonio, 2015, p.27). A good example in this case is a house wife whose husband keeps on cheating in their relationship but because he is the sole provider in the family. Although the wife is aware of his husband’s behavior, he keeps quite to avoid chaos in the family and hopes that with time the husband would change and stop his behavior.

In a psychological point of view, the woman has taken a firm decision to save his family from the agony likely to face her and her family when she raises the concern to his husband considering that she is only a house wife and won’t be able to provide for the children when chased away by the husband. Most relationships in the modern era break up in such circumstances because men don’t necessarily accept their mistakes and would defend their ego to an extent of chasing away the wife (Chettiar, 2015, p.270).

For that matter, the wife in the above case would have done much favor to her family because they would continue leaving happily and normally and with hopes that the husband would get to a point of change and stop the cheating behavior. In this scenario, the wife uses the excuse that the husband would change not to confront his behavior although she does not the exact moment when the husband would change (Jian-lei, 2014). The manner in which the woman approaches the issue clearly depicts rationalization as a factor leading to real progress. This is in consideration to the fact that the family will continue making its progressive moves as if there is nothing bad affecting it.

Contrally to what the woman hopes of her husband, it may not always be the case and may not be in hurry to change his cheating behavior as he may think that he has playing it safe to an extent that the wife has never realized. For that matter, he gains courage and extents his cheating behaviors because he starts to take it as normal since nobody questions him after all. The more he widens his cheating behavior, the more he increases the chances of contracting sexually transmitted infections and which he will eventually transmit to his wife back at the family (Tang, Qiu and Wang, 2016, p.352).

In an event that the husband happens to contract HIV/AIDs and transmits it to the wife is when the other side of rationalization reveals itself. This is because of the suffering that is likely to befall the entire family in comparison to what would have the case if the woman had taken a staunch stand and confronted his husband during his initial stages of cheating behavior rather than keeping quiet and hoping that he could change (Antonio, 2015, p.27). The main reason behind the wife keeping quite as outlined above was to save her family from agony which she expected to witness in the family if she had attempted to confront the husband on his cheating behavior. This is because the husband was the bread winner of the family.

In this final case however, the problem will have doubled because apart from the mere agony expected in the family, the family will be requiring finances to keep on getting treatment. The husband will no longer be able to work as he used to do and thus won’t be able to meet the needs of his family as he used to do before being affected. On the side of the wife, she will also be suffering because she will have also been infected and won’t be able to support the family as well (Antonio, 2015, p.28). The family will have therefore entered into a total mess, even more than what the wife worried about initially. The end results to this suffering will be the death of the parents leaving the children helpless and a family full of suffering.

Considering the final results, a lot of questions arise in regard to the contribution of modern rationalization (Chettiar, 2015, p.274). If the wife could have taken firm stand and confront her husband at his initial cheating behavior, maybe he could have changed or slowed his pace in the behavior and would have escaped the dangers associated with the behavior like contracting infections. However, due to the rationalization approach taken by the wife, the results have come out to be a total mess on the family. This is therefore the negative side of rationalization.

References

Antonio, G.R., 2015. Archetypes of women in Philippine fictions. In The 2nd International Conference on Language, Innovation, Culture, and Education (ICLICE) (pp. 27-28).

Chettiar, T., 2015. Treating marriage as “the sick entity”: Gender, emotional life, and the psychology of marriage improvement in postwar Britain. History of psychology, 18(3), p.270.

Jian-lei, Z.H.A.N.G., 2014. The Rationalization of Family Relationships: Performance, Mechanism and Consequences: Based on an Investigation in Village Z, Hunan Province.

Tang, H., Qiu, Z. and Wang, C., 2016. Applying psychological intervention of husband and wife for the center to patients with in vitro fertilization and embryo transfer. Chinese Journal of Practical Nursing, 32(5), pp.350-354.