Virginity (or loss of it)

Virginity (or loss of it)

Virginity (or loss of it) is still an important milestone for many women. While some want to just be done with it and forget some women want to cherish the moment and have a romantic buildup to it. And from the stories I have heard from other women, it may be downright painful, pleasurable, or a moment you’d rather forget. Here is my story.

It happened to me when I was 19. I don’t know how to explain the situation, but from other stories, I was a bit lucky. The man and I had been platonic friends for a while before our first time. Outside my male siblings and relatives, he was the only one with whom I could share my feelings without feeling judged. With time we started developing feelings for each other. I could just be myself around him.

There was no pressure from him. I had no fear, anxiety, or emotional guard against him. And at this point, I still held to the belief that sex destroyed women’s lives. It was a time when girls were being told to hold on to their virginity and avoid being the devil’s plaything.

When it came to him, these warnings seemed to have no hold over me. I felt ready. Luckily, most of my friends’ stories weren’t scary. In fact, they painted this thrilling picture for me.

That day my roommate was not around, and I invited the guy. I was dressed in a t-shirt and skimpy shorts. We took our time, and when we got naked, I was ready. The sex was painful at first, but I feel that I had prepared for any feeling. After a few tries, we succeeded, and for me, it was enjoyable. Not really the sex but the overall feeling afterward.

I believe his reassuring demeanor helped me through that day. He didn’t make some excuse to avoid me or go out. He made me feel pretty, and the earlier notions I had about sex being taboo disappeared that day.