Young love in high school

Young love in high school

Introduction

High school is often the best years of anybody’s life. It is in high school that people begin to understand themselves, including their fears and strengths. Some people’s best memories are in high school. High school, however, may also bring the worst experiences. Many students in high school are more or less like abandoned teens who long for attention, affection, or simply someone to make them feel less lost and empty. High school love is one of the areas that receive a lot of attention from scholars, mainly owing to its impact on development and academics. In China, for instance, young love is a taboo for high school students, and neither schools nor parents support it. Some students, because they cannot correctly understand and handle the relationship between adolescent boys and girls, get caught up in the quagmire of confusion and young love, abandon their studies, and pay even a more massive price for young love. In this essay, I focus on how to correctly face the problem of high school students’ young love and how society should approach it. The attention of the adolescent boys and girls to the opposite sex, including the desire to be noticed by the opposite sex, are normal physiological needs and a necessary stage of mental health development. Only when society treats the young love of high school students scientifically and rationally, can the children’s high school period be put to a good end.

Undesirable consequences of young love

Research has shown that teenage love can interfere with learning. Schmidt & Lockwood (2017), for instance, talk about some of how adolescent love can potentially affect academic performance. Dating in high school can cause distraction and emotional stability, especially considering that many teenagers are less likely to seek relationship advise. In China, dating in high school is not permitted. As such, adolescent lovers spend a lot of time dodging, which affects their education. They are always in high tension since they risk suspensions and other disciplinary action if schools catch them, further reducing their ability to concentrate on studies.

Also, high school students are in a vigorous period of physiological development, and their physiology is not yet mature. During this period, the mind is most sensitive to and suspicious of the actions of their favourite objects. Almost everything that their beloved persons do will touch their psychology and emotions, which, in turn, affects the secretion of various growth hormones, thus affecting the healthy development of the body (Price et al., 2016).

Ethical assessment

High school students’ young love is ordinary and should not be excessively interfered and prevented. A lot of debate and stigma that surrounds young love only looks at the fact that most romantic relationships in high school do not last and have adverse effects on psychological development and academic performance. Many times, however, people forget that young love is a normal developmental stage. According to Kar et al. (2015), sexual awareness often starts at early teenage, and it continues to grow through adolescence and early adulthood. Developing physical and emotional attraction towards a person of the opposite sex is very typical because it is part of human development. Sexual interest usually develops during adolescence, and this explains why many young people try to form romantic relationships (Kar et al., 2015). In his psychosexual development model, Sigmund Freud noted that sexuality develops in stages that cause certain body parts to be erotogenic. Adolescents try to explore their erotogenic parts to gain gratification, which is very normal (Kar et al., 2015). Adolescents generally experience a strong desire for intimacy and love-making.

Casual analysis

Teenage dating and love cannot be more normal. Initially, boys and girls in this age group tended to have good feelings for each other. However, their ability to control things was not very good, and they quickly fell in love. Their psychological naivety and instability proved problematic, primarily because it interfered with their ability to concentrate on education.

Proposal Statement

We should tell our children that high school love is the purest love in the world, and it is worth cherishing by everyone. Whether as a school or a parent, we should accept this process of the child and help the child to pass this sensitive period smoothly so that the child can grow into a truly mature person.

Supporting argument

As a country entrenched in traditions to span hundreds of years, China is less likely to address the issue of young love among high school students adequately. For such reasons, parents and schools often opt to avoid them by restricting or banning high school dating altogether. Since adolescent dating is a normal psychosexual stage, schools and parents need to take action to help children through the phase, making sure they come out more sexually aware and developed.

One of the measures that schools should take is to set up a post to address the problem of early love among adolescent students. They can also include the subject in the high school curriculum. They should let teenage children know that love is not just about admiring each other, but needs to be based on reality, a specific economic foundation, and the integration of two families. It also requires two people to agree on their perspectives and share interests. Parents should think about their children, understand their children, care about them, open their minds, and help them solve their love-related problems. They need to let children understand what is most important at this stage, while also closing the distance between parents and children. Sex communication is also crucial during this stage. Schools and parents should come together to educate adolescents about how to interact with the opposite sex.

Harmful consequences

There are chances that adolescents with rebel and resist the proposal, primarily because it is talking about the things they would rather keep to themselves. It is also vital to ensure the proposal does not interfere with children’s usual personality and interpersonal communication.

Ethical appeal and feasibility

We have to deal with the problem of young love for high school students from the standpoint of correct morality. They are our children, and we have a responsibility to help them through this very critical stage. We can afford this proposal. It does not require too much time, and it is one of the topics that most people will be more than willing to help. What’s more, getting the person to spearhead the proposal is easy. The first thing we need to do is to understand the issues surrounding young love in the country and engage students through correct communication. China has not made efforts to address this problem in the past since it is a traditional society in which talking about love with children is a taboo. As a young person who has grown up in this environment and has already experienced this stage, I know how this proposal will benefit society.

References

Kar, S. K., Choudhury, A., & Singh, A. P. (2015). Understanding normal development of adolescent sexuality: A bumpy ride. Journal of human reproductive sciences, 8(2), 70.

Price, M., Hides, L., Cockshaw, W., Staneva, A. A., & Stoyanov, S. R. (2016). Young love: Romantic concerns and associated mental health issues among adolescent help-seekers. Behavioral Sciences, 6(2), 9.

Schmidt, J., & Lockwood, B. (2017). Love and other grades: A study of the effects of romantic relationship status on the academic performance of university students. Journal of College Student Retention: Research, Theory & Practice, 19(1), 81-97.