Psychology of personal adjustment and coping with stressful situations

Psychology of personal adjustment and coping with stressful situations

Psychology of personal adjustment and coping with stressful situations is the study of how to make the right decisions for your wellbeing. This psychology will help people to accept situations and positively look at things. In this paper, I will discuss three situations, one at childhood, adulthood, and my current situations. In every case, I will discuss the way I coped at that time, what I should have done differently, and the psychological coping styles that I will continue using in life challenges.

Divorce of my parents

I was 10years when my parents divorced. I faced a lot of challenges and dilemmas during that childhood period. I choose to live with my mum because I loved her most, although she was not economically stable and was much affected emotionally and mentally by their divorce. My Dad was financially stable and was the breadwinner of the family but was strong enough after the separation and looked at the situation in a positive manner that why I didn’t choose to live with him. I had difficulty in choosing to live with one of my parents in the absence of the other. These thoughts crashed my emotions and put me under stress throughout my childhood. Sometimes I would see as if I am divorceable too because of the absence of one of my parents.

I managed to cope with the divorce of my mum and Dad by self-reassessing my life and found out that wellbeing is the one that mattered most in this situation. I had to accept myself and direct all my love to myself. I needed the growth of my mindset to cope with this situation. I realized that the only fighter in this battle was only me, and I had to accept that and accept the fact that my parents had separated. This period I used the idea of the science of happiness. Where I had to be satisfied with what I get in this life and appreciate it, and finally, make social connections with other people regardless if we are blood or not. All these helped to grow positively without hanging in the in acceptance divorce mind. Negatively, I had to remove all my Dad’s memories that affected me emotionally because most of the time; he was never around.

I think after the divorce of my parents, I should have followed my Dad because of the financial stability. Since after divorce and going with my mum, we had to struggle so much that we even opened a grocery store that could increase the income to pay my school fee, clothing, food, and rent. I also think that I would accept the situation earlier enough, not trying to cope and adjust by forgetting my Dad’s memories. I should have accepted the fact that even though they had separated, I needed every parent’s thoughts, views, ideas, guidelines, and strategies to grow as their child.

The concept of self-actualization, self-love, the science of happiness, growth of mindset from psychology helped me to live a happy childhood after self-realizing. After applying all these concepts, I managed to be understanding, self-motivated, and focused on helping other kids who had gone such challenges of divorce so that their lives couldn’t be ruined. After all, unhappiness, stress, negative emotions will ruin your health, wellbeing, social connections, and bring more hatred, which is not contributing anything in your current life and future.

Seeking job

For five years after completion of my master’s degree in counseling and clinical psychology, I struggled a lot to finds employers’ favor and be employed. These years I had to struggle every day to get rent, food, items of clothing, and finance for self upkeep. This time I lost hope and realized that dreams and carrier had come to an end. It wasn’t very easy for me to think that I can ever get a job. After the situation worsened daily, I accepted the situation to put a positive mind and analyzed my dreams and goals of life. I had to learn about the developmental stages of a carrier, carrier choice, and intelligence of emotions and carrier success.

I managed to cope with getting a job by giving a positive mind that not a must that one should be employed; instead, I can employ myself and succeed in life regardless of the carrier. I had a realization that it doesn’t matter the course I have done, but through hard work and determination, I can do any payable job and still live my dreams. I also coped with the use of carrier development stages, which helped to realize that work does not begin from going to an interview of your course. For anyone to get a job, you need to explore from all corners of the employer’s expectations and know what an employer needs. And how to put all these expectations in the employer’s table. Negatively, I discouraged myself that finding a job was not possible at all and explored the perception of self-employment, where I opened a psychologist’s clinic and gave me the little cash I needed at that time. After the acceptance of all these and applying psychological skills and knowledge, I got a job as a Clinical Psychologist.

I feel I could have approached this situation of joblessness differently. From the moment I finished my master’s degree, I should never have expected so much from the employers and started my means of income immediately. I should have started by setting my goals and writing an income and expenditure sheet where I could use the income minimally to avoid undergoing losses and getting debts to satisfy my need. Through this, I would have saved as little as I can, and this could have brightened my future without undergoing employers’ pressure. Being your boss is the best thing you can ever do to yourself. It is not matters of either you are employed or self-employed what matters most is what you achieve and get after all.

Psychological concepts of self-acceptance, acceptance of the situation, carrier developmental stages, and carrier choices helped me so much in the process of finding a job. Through the exploration and establishment of my own psychologist’s clinic, I was able to encourage other unemployed people to self-reassess themselves and start their job deals. Carrier choice theory, exploration, hard work, and emotional intelligence are among the concepts that I will keep looking at to achieve my carrier goals and dreams. Without self hard work and self-motivation, it very hard to live your dreams. It is better to put on self-determination to have a bright future rather than self discrimination, and neglect lost hope that kills your dream and drawing you back to become jobless all your lifetime.

Buying a house

My current situation is purchasing a house. Since I was a child, I have dreamed of owning a house. It is so much cost-consuming when living in rentals and paying rent every month, yet I can plan and make some sacrifices to own a house. I have three kids, and living in a rental with two bedrooms is the smallest place and space you can ever get. Kids need to need space to play inside the house, but in this squeezed house, there no chance for that. Sometimes I have visitors, and they have to sleep on the couch because I don’t even have a visitor’s room where they can sleep. It is so disappointing that friends have to stay for a few days because of a lack of accommodation space. My wife is pregnant and cannot even find a space to do yoga and other self relaxing activities. Buying a housing boost person psychology and makes him feel like he/she has arrived. This makes homeowners have control of their private life without undergoing the process of paying rents to landlords. This belief has helped me to focus more on the target house as soon as possible to shift into a relaxed life without Landlords pressure.

I am trying to manage my current situation by accepting the situation is real, but it can change if I manage to buy a house. I have started by making a view of the house, figured out the amount of money I want to spend on buying it, size and location. Although logic plays a part, you might be surprised how your emotions have already been influenced in the process of buying a house. I have already started making savings monthly and minimizing my expenditure list. I have realized that I cannot buy a house through my thoughts only, but I have to put in hard work and financial support for this project to work.

I think what I should do concerning the house project is to have a timeline so that it can pressure me to achieve and attain the goal. I should also work extra hours and find other jobs such as selling products online and doing research online to earn more cash every day. Set goals which are specific, measurable, achievable, and realistic and with a particular frame of time are easy to achieve compared to unplanned goals

In conclusion, theories of psychology in terms of individual coping and adjustment help so much to follow the right path of life. It is through these theories that we can accept situations as they are and strive daily to move from it. Psychological concepts motivate one by teaching you to love yourself first and finding self-happiness expecting too much from people, which will hurt your emotions and mentality. Self reassessment and self-actualization help so much as the starting point of everything you want to do in this life. Through handwork and self-determination, one can live his/her dreams without frustrations.

Believe everyone lives the life he/she chooses. You can choose to be happy, and you can still choose to be unhappy with the decisions you make daily.