Benefits of a Heartbreak

Benefits of a Heartbreak

            Everyone has felt broken in two, empty and hollow, like if everything that ever mattered did not exist anymore because a loved one has abandoned them. Everyone can relate because it is natural for a heartbreak to traumatizes a person from trying to venture out again, and transforms into a form of pain and loneliness. Pain and loneliness can lead a person down a path of isolation or worse, suicide. One of these pain come from a feeling that we all felt once in our life, love. We were taught that not all things in the world are free and a sacrifice is required to achieve that state of love. That’s why many sacrifice a part of themselves when it comes to love to obtain true happiness. Therefore, everyone should embrace the feeling of heartbreak because it is beneficial to help understanding the fundamentals of life, mature, guide, strengthened a person psychologically, and help a person find his or her true value.

A broken heart teaches a fundamental lesson of life that help he or she recognize the healthy potential side of a devastating heartbreak and assist them to expand their undeveloped heart to a new possibility. Life’s a rollercoaster that goes ups and downs and can sometimes get stuck along the way; in a relationship we are bound to make mistakes that can cause an individual heart to be shatter in pieces, that feeling leaves a person fragility, stuck in a infinite loop of making the same mistake, but the potential for recovering and healing is even stronger. The stage of recovering might make a person heart stable for quite some time, and this is when they can start experience happiness, hope, and connection once again. The stage of recovering can not truly begin without first accept the pain and loss. It is never easy when it’s come to losing someone precious, but it can get easilier by accepting the feeling that are hiding behind the the mask people uses when they are not showing their emotional side, especially men. A person need to acknowledge their feeling and show it rather than hiding because once that feeling is on the surface it can be release and the process of accepting can start. This process can be hard for some people because accepting a certain event can be devastating and traumatizing. It’s a timely process that dedicated mass amount of time and sheer determination to accept the facts of what happened. Life can still be amazing even if a heartbreak occur because there’s no such things as a perfect life no one can be truly perfect even if they try. Happiness and sadness co-exist with each other because it need to stay a balance. Overall, a broken heart teaches a fundamental lessons of life that is how to deal with pain, keeping yourself strong, and learning to move on.

A person’s heart can be broken physically, mentally, and emotionally. A human heart is extremely delicate in youth. Any small miss treatment causes it to boil in tears like a baby not getting the toy they wanted. The only way to strengthen it is through pain. A big step in growing up with a mentally strong heart is a heartbreak. An individual can become emotionally stronger from an unsuccessful relationship. Learning the lessons from the previous relationship can fortify and build a foundation for making the next relationship successful while at the same time maintaining the identity of one’s self.. In the end, these will make a person become more emotionally stable and improve their self-esteem by finding their true value. Also the most obvious lesson of them all, it is a lesson of how to maintain and healthy and loving relationship. The reason it was a heartbreak in the first place was because there was something not working. Learning to see the flaws and fixing the problems in important in maintaining a strong relationship with another person. A person define those flaws and mistakes and analysis them, so the next relationship does not falls in the same horrible breakup like the last one. His or her learns from your past heartbreak so there can be a chance to make the next one fulfilling. This will improve the chances that a heartbreak does not occur again. It’s okay to fail and feel pain. It means there was something to important that brought one happiness. But love can hurt, so it’s important to learn how to heal.

A heartbreak is a step for a person to mature and grow up from their naive self. When we are in a relationship, we tend to dream about a future where a marriage with that person is likely to happen and life is so perfect with them. This leads us to invest a lot in that particular person and put everything else aside so we can make them happy. This way of thinking is prominent in teenagers since most of them are experiencing love for the first time. According to “Teenagers in Love” by Susan Moore, a psychology professor at University of Technology, she points out that “A study by Montgomery (2005) of nearly 500 young people aged 12 to 24 years, in which it was shown that older adolescents were less prone to romantic idealisation than younger ones” (Moore 551). The majority of people finding their first love is likely to occur when they are in their adolescent years. Teenagers are the product of maturing because they are in a stage of their life where a heartbreak has a high chance of happening. Teenager tend to move around like how their parents move to a different country or going to college and becoming an adult, this can affect the relationship and possibly ending it as an individual is force to move on. This heartbreak is the first step to help mature an individual to become more independence and guide them to whatever is next.

After a heartbreak, it’s really hard to find sense and direction. The brain is under a lot of distress that it makes a person just want to curl up in a corner and watch the sun go up and down. However, this is when a person finds that little things in lifes that makes people get out of bed in the morning/afternoon or night, depending how bad the pain might be. Maybe it’s a mom that calls them down for breakfast or the bus for school. When nothing else in the world really gets the gears of life rolling, priorities and the people that truly matter keep a human afloat in their darkest moments. Why be sad for those who left when the people that will never leave are right by one’s side. In the midst of depression, the first  of getting out is seeing which path to take. The best time to build up is when things are broken. After realising that it’s going to be okay, one must force themselves down the path that best meets their goals. Against all odds, they will prevail one day at a time doing the little things in life that has always brought them happiness. Channeling all that dark energy and making something positive until the pain makes up part of their being. It takes hard work but in the end one needs the pain in their life to make them the person they are today, a stronger version of themselves.

When everything is over, one can only reminisce of the person they used to be because that person is gone. It was left behind with all the other suffering that is simply not needed anymore. It has served its purpose of building character and mental strength. Overcoming adversity is a skill that gets tested for the first time during a heart break. A person that has endured pain in a lot of different ways can handle tough situations easier since they are used to high amount of distress. But for people who do not know what it’s like to deal with pain, a heartbreak can be used as training wheels for what is left to come with the rest of life.

According to “Teenagers in Love”, Susan Moore explains that “with age and maturity come more realistic expectations and, hopefully, stronger capacities to make discerning partner choices…” (Moore, 551). As we develop our physically and mentally, we can become stronger in a sense that next time something horrible happens in life that makes us end up depressed again we will be more experiences in coping with it. The reasons may be different but the the stages of grief are always the same respectively to the individual. The more times that person goes through the process, the faster they will go through it again. That’s a great skill to have in life. People fall but being mentally strong to get up fast is a skill better to obtain on early.

Overall, a heartbreak can be extremely devastating in a relationship especially in an adolescent years. Adolescent romantic relationships have their pros and cons but that is the process of life. One’s should not compress their feeling to hide their emotions , instead, accept the fact that its was not meant to be. This can be extremely beneficial to fill the empty hole that was dig by your old significant other, learning lessons that can make the next relationship stronger, and respect yourself more and know your worth in the world.