Critiques essay
Giving Without Receiving
Yearning to receive or get any of the five languages of love may reveal the hidden egoism, pride, and the attachment to the world. The five languages may seem innocent and common practices between healthy individuals, but in the real sense, they reveal the unhealed nature. One feels the need to be given by others and may become upset when others do not recognize the efforts they are making for offering Chapman’s type of love. Many people are out here trying to manipulate others into offering the required love language.
The author advocates that one should practice the expression of affection for others without necessarily expecting anything in return. Giving is not an issue, and in fact, those who do not give may be having a big problem. However, feeling the need to receive certain gifts encourages people to attach themselves to the world and therefore hindering one from getting to the more profound love of Christ. Also, giving someone who is not thankful or returns the efforts always evokes the emotional response of anger or hurt, which is a sign of ego and having an impure heart.
Saving Marriages and Relationships
The author tends to work with assumptions and does not cover all the relationship aspects. The author does not address the compatibility of partners. According to the author, a marriage must be saved regardless of whether you got into marriage while young, arranged marriage, and whether one knows anything about preference; they have to make the marriage work. If the marriage fails, the author gives a lot of judgments. Although the author has a point when he argues that people tend to move out of relationships and get into another one whenever the current relationship fails or has a lot of issues; some people may have tried to make things work but failed, or maybe they married the wrong person in the first place. Even the matured and the old can get into marriages, but they do not enjoy it at all, or they always seem unhappy. Working relationships are essential, but if one tries to save the relationship at all costs, and they do not work, then they have no reason to stay in that relationship or marriage. Also, one should not remain in an abusive marriage or relationship just because they believe that working on the five languages of love can save their marriages.