Seven Things You Must Do on the First Date

Seven Things You Must Do on the First Date

There is always a first time for everything in the world you do. For instance, for the first time, you learn to crawl, to walk, to stand on your two little feet, for the first time you go to Kindergarten school, and then go to a bigger school. Similarly, you look for the best academic career, career options, life partner, and house; all for the first time. Afterwards, when you gain experience, you move on ahead. In the same manner, you fall in love for the first time, and your whole world transforms for the first time. However, it is very important to decide very wisely the way your life is going to move forward in a certain direction. Otherwise, everything you might have planned may go awry.

So when you fall in love for the first time; it is, however, not a pre-planned decision or moves, it just happens spontaneously. Still, one needs to be very careful when treading on this path and that too with an unknown stranger whom he or she has met for the first time. There are certain things which one has to take care of, and also at the same time maintain and nurture the most wonderful relationship that is in the process of building up.

The most important thing to remember is that first dates can be both very exciting and also take a toll on one’s nerves. So you have to be very careful in the first with regards to your etiquettes, attitude, punctuality, behaviour, attire, choice of location etc. If you miss out on either of these things; then things might not work out on the very first day. So here is a list of things you can do to make your first date a memorable and enjoyable day. It can be a day where you either are successful in finding your soulmate, or it can be a day spent without any fruitful or meaningful outcome. It all depends on how you plan your day.

Ensure that it’s, in fact, a First Date: One thing that is common these days is the fact that there is a lot of ambiguity between being on a first date and just hanging out with a friend. Many people confuse hanging out with people first time as being on first dates. As a result, a lot of confusion and mistrust arises between two people. To avoid that confusion, you must take the bold step and ask the person whether he or she will be your date for the whole day. It might be awkward and embarrassing at the beginning, and if the person agrees without any hesitation; then it’s going to be entertaining and enjoyable. So it all depends on how you pitch to the opposite party about your proposal.

Choice of Location: Another important factor in making the first impression on the first date is the choice of location. It’s very easy to meet at the usual coffee shops, or bars, or places where you think will be comfortable. Rather, one should also consider the other person’s comfort level and choose a place or location that is mutually comfortable for both parties. Many people choose quiet places, coffee shops and bars where there is a huge crowd; and also there is no blaring music playing from the speakers. As many people like the quiet and solitude and the ambience in the whole of such places. So choose very wisely and most important of all, try to get your date’s inputs on the choice of location. That would be the ideal thing to do in such a situation. As usual, it happens, that people majority of the times meet at crowded public places like malls, shopping complexes, parks or other public places; where conversations cannot take place. So to make the first date successful, you must get to know your date; that is to know about other person’s preferences, choices, likes and dislikes. For this, you need to have a conversation where there are no unnecessary distractions, and you can talk freely with the other party.

Choice of Attire: Another most important aspect when going on a first date is the choice of clothes to wear for the occasion. This is part where one can either make it or break it. It has always been believed that the clothes you wear are an extension of your attitude and your way of life, thought process etc. So it can be up to you to either impress your date on the very first day; or to create an everlasting impression of ridicule. Now the other person doesn’t need to be impressed by expensive, flashy clothes. Rather, it is the way of how you carry yourself with even simple, and decent clothes can be the deciding point. It has been observed that people have tried to impress their first dates by coming in attire that has resulted in them being made fun of and ridiculed. It has also been seen that many first dates have failed because of too much showing off of wealth and affluence. So it completely lies within oneself of how one is presenting himself or herself on the first date.

The direction of the Conversation Must be Light: Now, this is one of the most important points to keep in mind while on a first date. It has been observed many times that people try to be overconfident and overtly knowledgeable on every topic during a conversation. They also try to be the dominant voice over the other person. This results in the other person getting either bored or put off on the very first day only. Therefore, the most important thing to remember is to keep the conversation light; and not dabble in politics, or recount tales of childhood etc. This behaviour sometimes gives an impression of being either extremely nervous or having a lack of confidence. It is always believed that listening is also a part of conversation. So one should give the other person also ample time and opportunity to express one’s thoughts and feelings on various things. This way, it results in a healthy two-way conversation that is both engaging and is liked by both the parties. It is also a very good method to know about the other person’s mind-set, beliefs, lifestyle, attitude etc.

Try to Be Honest on the First Date: People have always tried to impress their first dates by telling tales which have been either made up or distorted versions of the truth. It is always a good idea, to be honest upfront from the very first moment. This will have a huge impact on the other person, and also it will create a very positive impression. On the other hand, if you try to make up stories about yourself or your lifestyle; it will only create false impressions and expectations. As a result, these might come to hurt the relationship later on. So it is better, to be honest, and clear about your intentions and background. This will also help your date to decide as to whether to move forward or cut it short in the first go. In the end, being honest is one of the most virtuous and sincere qualities seen in anyone for choosing a partner for a lifetime.

Be Yourself in the First Date: Another major thing that has been seen on most first dates is the fact that people try to be overly smart, and try to be someone very cool or knowledgeable. This results in most of the times that their partners on the very first day either get offended or irritated. So, rather being someone else; it is far better to be your natural self. The first most important and basic thing of going on a first date is to love the way you are. This will help you to impress your date on the first day itself, and this also creates a very positive and everlasting impression on the other person. On the contrary, if anyone tries to overly smart or act as if he or she knows everything; the other person is going to see behind the façade very quickly and might call off the date. So again it is very much important to be your natural self, the way you are at other times of the day with other people.

Behave like a Gentleman on the First Date: This is also another significant aspect to take into consideration while on a first date. It is always important to know that people will remember you by your behaviour; and not by how much social, the political, or financial status you have behind you. Generally, people on first dates are always trying to impress the other person, and this results in sometimes in a showing of behaviour which can be contrary to the personality one is trying to display. Now good behaviour does not necessarily mean being overly chivalrous or polite but rather being soft and polite with people in general. It is not only gauged by measuring how well you are with your first date but also how one behaves with others in public. So it is a good idea to behave sensibly and with enough maturity and common sense, rather than trying to be overly polite or downright rude and mean to anybody. As both, the extremes in behaviour are not generally accepted by anyone and especially would not be liked by the first date. So it is advisable to be at your best on your first date as this would be the day and the moment that would decide the future course of your life.

In conclusion, it can be said with enough conviction that first dates can be both exciting and scary at times as it depends on the situation and also on how the first dates are planned and handled accordingly. If a few basic but important points are taken into consideration, then these days will have an everlasting impression on your lives. On the other hand, if they are mishandled, then the results can be a bit disquieting. So to ensure that first dates are always successful and happy; these points must be kept in mind and implemented.